i’m like Jack.

i want to go, yet i’m really nervous. the truth is, i don't have a lot of experience with same-sex sex. i mean, i've messed around with guys a little... like, i’ve sucked other guys off. but i’ve never done anything anal. is there pressure to do this? do i have to?

guys, if you're into oral but not anal, that's cool.
and hey, if you've never been around naked men playing and just want to watch - with your own clothes on - that's cool, too.

just go at your own pace. at Open Minded Events, there is no pressure to do anything you don't want to do.

shit, this sounds like fun... but shit, i am SO nervous. i don’t know if i can do this. i mean, it's a group scene! it turns me on so much, but i know i'd be freaking out if i were there.

first of all, realize that you are not the only one who is nervous. many people who attend naked parties - in fact, MOST people who attend them - are nervous. it doesn’t matter whether it’s your first, fifth, or fifteenth party - there is usually some degree of nervousness buzzing around in your head before it starts. not only before you get there, but once you arrive, too. take solace in the fact that once people start getting naked, the nervous feelings quickly disappear. really!


now, if you really don’t think you can do this, then my advice to you is... “don’t.” the fact is, life offers us many things, and some are terribly exciting, and some we try and some we don’t. if you want to try something new that is REALLY fun, then contact me. but if you don’t - if you are just not ready to give this a shot - then don’t waste your time getting cleared for these parties. even if i stop having parties, let’s say, a year from now, and you decide that in 18 months you want to give this a go, trust me - you’ll find other parties, and you can try them. it’s not like these sorts of all male gatherings are ever going to go out of style.

i suppose my point is this: go at your own pace. if you find this exciting, but know that you are not really ready to step through the door, then sit back behind your computer and experience this party as a “lurker”... play with yourself in bed as you fantasize about ‘em. perhaps one day in the future you’ll decide to take the next step. and until then, rest assured - where you are right now is just fine.

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wait - i'm like some other people, too. take me back to their concerns.

i'm like Tyrone.

what if some men at these things are overbearing? or what if i see someone i’m attracted to... how do i start playing with him?

different people have different norms in terms of initiating play, and refusing play. here’s some insight. fact is, it’s probably not nearly as complicated as it sounds:

some people, like myself, are fine with you coming and gently touching me, to see how i respond. if i smile, or moan, or reach out for you, then i’m nonverbally telling you that i’m fine with what’s going on. if i take your hand and remove it, or pull myself away, then it’s a way of telling you that i’m not interested, at least at the moment. let’s say you are someone i want to play with, but i really need a break, or i’m really involved with someone else at that same moment, then i might indicate - with a wink, or with words, that it would be good to get together later. if i don't want anything and just move away - well, hopefully you can take the hint.

if i’m with someone i don’t know, i find it best to start on a neutral part of his body - not going up to a guy and immediately grabbing his dick - but instead, perhaps touching something like his shoulder... and seeing how he reacts.

other people like to be asked with words before you initiate any sort of touching, contact, or activity. a simple “can i touch your back?” is the sort of thing that these people want to hear.


if someone says no, then you’ll need to take no as “no.” pressuring someone into doing something will inevitably get back to the host, and you’ll probably find yourself unwelcome at future parties.

this seems so obvious, but it should be stated here that all people are different and you can not assume that because one person at a party is into something, another person is as well.

recognize that people can change their mind, stop, or back up in play at any time. everyone has a right to control what he is doing at a sex party, and no one else can tell him otherwise.

bottom line: it is considered acceptable behavior to approach any man at a party. and it is also considered acceptable behavior for any man to decline an invitation.
it is NOT considered acceptable behavior to be disrespectful when declining an invitation. likewise, it is NOT considered acceptable behavior to persist if an invitation has been declined.

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wait - i'm like some other people, too. take me back to their concerns.

i’m like Thomas.

what if i see someone that i know from another part of my life?



um, yeah. that’s a case-by-case thing, and tough to answer. but the best plan might be to smile and know that he is in the same boat as you are. it’s amazing how being cool in a situation really is the coolest way to be.


but it would be awkward if he would want to have sex with me.

again, be cool - and keep your head about you. there's a far better chance that HE'D be freaked out about seeing you, and so the likelihood of him wanting to play with you in that "surprise" situation is actually pretty small.


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wait - i'm like some other people, too. take me back to their concerns.

i'm like Eric.

i like the idea of this - but since it’s so new to me, i would definitely need to go at my own pace.

at Open Minded Events, you are always able to go at your own pace. although it’s true that at most parties the naked play begins immediately, there is always some space where you can hang out and chat with other guys, or just sit back and watch. there is never any pressure to join in. other events might include a warm up time, where people share some drinks and conversation before they move into play mode.

if you want to come to an event and just watch, without any intention to physically interact with others, that is absolutely fine. after all, as Justin Bonds says in John Cameron Mitchell's movie Shortbus, "voyeurism is participation" too.


it’s easy to make new friends at these events. and afterwards, it’s pretty typical that some of us go out and get a bite to eat. this other way to “eat out” can be fun, too!

ok - i think i can do this. tell me more about ALL MALE PARTIES

wait - i'm like some other people, too. take me back to their concerns.

i’m like Jim.

i'm really turned on by this, but i've never done a guy-on-guy thing before. i'd probably be more comfortable just watching - not necessarily getting involved. will this offend the other men?

no, they wont be offended. many guys who attend these events are happy to be watched by others.

and what if something happens? i mean, what if i end up sucking someone's dick?


well... the world'll blow up. but go ahead - do it. please don't worry about the future of humanity. just be selfish and wrap those lips around someone's hard slab of meat. Jim, your happiness is of utmost importance, even if the world as we know it is destroyed because you sucked some cock. go ahead. suck it.

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wait - i'm like some other people, too. take me back to their concerns.

i'm like Patrick.

how do you keep from picking something up? i’m clean and i want to stay that way!
i don't want to burst your bubble, but guess what? people who go to orgies are definitely able to remain disease-free. they stay that way by using their senses (eyes, ears, hands, and so on) when playing. knowing how to have safer sex is important.

safer sex concepts vary, but for many it means using barriers like condoms when fucking or getting fucked. practicing "safer sex" typically means you do not use barriers with oral sex (this is the main difference between safer sex and "safe sex," which uses barriers for both oral and anal play.)

so what do you mean, using your “eyes, ears and hands?”
just what it says. literally LOOK at someone before you have sex with them. look them over to make sure there are no sores, cuts, and to see that they are clean in general.
LISTEN to what they are saying. if they're talking a lot of odd stuff in terms of their previous behavior, or if you sense any red flags, you might not want to proceed.
FEEL someone before you have sex with them. for example, if you're going to fuck someone in the ass, put your finger in their hole first, and feel around. no strange bumps? good, you should feel comfortable proceeding.
if you ever find that someone has an open sore, or bumps in or on their genitals or mouth, you should stay away - those could be symptoms of syphilis, warts, or herpes. i myself have yet to encounter such things on people at these events.

well, what about the location? what’s the apartment like?
the place is cleaned by a maid every week. fresh linens are put on beds before every event. and condoms and lube are always within reach.

what if someone is HIV positive and infectious?
no one is to attend these events who knowingly has any STD or STI that is infectious - including HIV. having said that, if you bring one piece of advice with you into these parties (or any intimate encounter with anyone, for that matter) it should be this: play with people AS IF they are capable of giving you an infectious disease. in that way, your behavior will be safe. for example, if you are using condoms and common sense (if you cut your finger an hour ago, don't rub it in someone’s cum) you should be fine. play safe, and you will be safe.


so does everyone have to use condoms?
let's be clear here. if YOU want someone to use a condom with you, then that person needs to use a condom with you. really, that should be all that matters. it really doesn't have anything to do with you, if the person you are playing with didn't use a condom, with someone he was playing with before you. your use of a condom with him will protect you. 

condoms are easily available everywhere during an event, and all men are encouraged to use them. however, this is not a policed party. if two guys are making a choice to not use a condom, that is a choice between them. there are boyfriends, partners and husbands who attend the parties, and when they fuck, they often do not use condoms with each other. 

if you are new to this, here are some tips.
::: bottoms can help to put the condom on the top.
::: guys should put on a new condom EVERY time they do something insertive with different partners. 
::: use your head as you roll that thing onto your other head. if you start to unroll a condom and it’s not unrolling the “easy” way down, don’t just pull it off, turn it inside out and roll it on again. you may already have pre-cum on it, which is now on the outside of the condom. instead, just throw it away and grab another one. and this time, start unrolling it a little before it touches your cock.

what else do i need to know?
good question. let’s start pre-party. you should arrive clean - freshly showered, and cleaned out. once you're at the event, if you've been active, you should go into the bathroom and wash up - with soap and hot water! this is for all intimate activity - whether you've been fucking, fingering, or playing with toys. the bathroom has antibacterial liquid soap, paper towels and plenty of hot water. you can even shower afterwards if you want - just bring a towel.

and please remember: - if you get a cold, some odd intestinal bug that would affect your having sex, experience a sudden outbreak of something, or some other medical situation, please don't come to an event.

i'm still not sure about this...
if after reading this you’re still not comfortable with the idea of having safe, clean activity with other people, know that you can always just attend and watch. or, attend, watch, whip that cock out, and jerk off - all without even touching another person!

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wait - i'm like some other people, too. take me back to their concerns.

i’m like Anton.

i’m dying to go to one of these, but i don’t know all the etiquette.

etiquette is a big subject. take a few minutes to read through this section now, and prevent embarrassment later.

- Open Minded Events has a few house rules:
don’t arrive before the prescribed time
smoke tobacco products only in the kitchen area
use condoms on insertive toys
always use a condom when requested to do so, and don't pull one off in the middle of the act
don’t hang out in the apartment hallways
look and act discreet when entering the building
don't bring or use any cameras or videos
don't bring or use any illegal drugs

- arrive clean. you should be freshly showered, and cleaned out if planning on any ass play. the only exception to this would be if you are going to a specific raunch-themed event, like a party focusing on scents or sweat.


- don't arrive drunk or drugged. and don’t become drunk or drugged at the event.

- please be respectful of my time right before an event starts. i am often swamped with setting up. don't email or call an hour or two before to ask if the party is still on, or to find out who is coming. if you are unable to come for some reason, contact me through the most likely way possible (email, phone) to let me know.

- you are asked to arrive within a certain timeframe. please do so. this is different than a “regular” social gathering, where in many circles it’s quite cool to arrive late.

- at the outside security entry system to the building, buzz up and say something like, “hey, it’s Chris.” be general; no need to say “i’m here for the party” or anything like that.

- at the door to the apartment, you’ll need to give your email address. keep things smooth and be ready to offer it. don’t just show up at the door, saying, “hi, i’m Johnny” - this sort of info is not enough to identify you. plus, you as Johnny in clothes may look very different from the Johnny naked photos you sent - and that could be awkward.

- make your donation when you arrive, while you are getting checked in. a generous donation is really appreciated. please remember that without a good amount of time and effort, these sort of events can not take place.

- think about the guy letting you in. for the moment, he is busy watching the door, and it is inappropriate to make moves on him. if you know you can play with him later, it’s ok to flirt, but don’t expect much action from him while he’s handling the door.

- refrain from expectations. when you come into a room of naked people, you'll see some you would like to play with, and some you would not. realistically, there will always be someone in a group that you do NOT want to play with. your role as a sex participant should be to focus on what you like, minimize what you don't like, and through it all, BE COOL about it.

- if you don't initially see what you like, you should pull yourself together. stay in the room, and just hang out. give yourself time to chill a little, and take in the scene. a mature sex participant knows that the first twenty minutes of entering a room is nothing like the next twenty minutes, or the next twenty minutes after that. sex is taking place around you! naturally, things like atmosphere and mood change quickly in this arena.

what is especially not good is to leave shortly after entering. it not only makes you seem shallow, but it also leaves a terrible taste in literally everyone's mouth who is left behind. imagine the sense of rejection that is felt by everyone remaining. it doesn't matter how hot they are, or how hot - or not - you are... when someone enters a participatory sex play scene and leaves shortly thereafter, the remaining people feel like shit. because, as we all know, if you were witnessing The Hottest Sex You've Ever Seen, you definitely wouldn't be departing so soon.

“but i didn’t want to be there!” you might think.

still... why should your manners go out the window, just because it’s a sex party? a polite person wouldn’t just pick up and leave, immediately upon entering a “regular” social party. if nothing else, it’s about being respectful. so leaving quickly leaves a mark on you: everyone else can see that for you, this party is only about YOU, and what YOU want. once a host realizes this, you stand little chance of being invited back.

- in any sort of sex group play - whether it's a threesome, or small group, or whatever... you should consider what i call the “Twenty Minute Rule.” this basically means that you don’t want to monopolize someone for the whole party. it’s as inappropriate as if you went to a cocktail reception for two hours, and talked with one person the whole time. if you’re grooving on another person at an Open Minded Event, you should definitely enjoy them - but after a period of time, it may be better to exchange contact information for the future.


- be aware that at a sex party, asking someone out on a date can result in a very awkward situation. many men who go to Open Minded Events are not looking to date or find a relationship. certainly, many guys at sex parties enjoy casual sex, group sex, or both, and may not be interested in anything different.

- if you do decide you'd like to see someone outside of a party, make that move yourself. do not contact your host after an event, requesting another partygoer's information, or requesting that your host forward your info on to the other guy.

- when a scene is taking place:
if it’s a dom/sub thing, or some form of bdsm play, or some role play, you should not interrupt, and although it might be ok to witness, you should refrain from being loud.
if it’s people fooling around, and you feel you can join in, see if you can join them by using one of the methods described in Tyrone’s concern. be prepared for a 50% chance of acceptance, and a 50% chance of rejection. if you do get rejected, don’t take it personally.

- even if you are on a mailing list for events, you’ll need to have confirmation for a particular event before you just show up. if you think you can show up at a party just because you have the address and know the date, you may not only be kicked out, but also kicked off the invite list permanently.

ok - i think i can do this. tell me more about ALL MALE PARTIES

wait - i'm like some other people, too. take me back to their concerns.

i’m like Yossi.

i only want to interact with really attractive people.

figure there will be a group of people at an event. figure that since you’re picky, you won’t want to interact with at least 75 percent of them. that leaves 25 percent - hell, let’s make this even worse: let’s say there’s only two people you are attracted to. if you don’t want to get intimate with two people, then you probably shouldn't come at all.


on the other hand, two and you might make a really hot threesome!

ok - i think i can do this. tell me more about ALL MALE PARTIES

wait - i'm like some other people, too. take me back to their concerns.

i’m like Diego.

it might be so much pressure - i might be nervous. what if i’m not hard during it?

a couple of extraneous things definitely contribute to a hard dick. it might seem obvious, but make sure you get enough sleep the night before. eat meals before events, too - not huge meals, but don’t deprive yourself of nutrients. a cock ring could help (get fitted for one at a local sex shop). and viagra, cialis or levitra might give you a needed boost - or a natural alternative (again, available at sex shops).

on the other hand, you can actually have a lot of fun without an erect cock. if you really sit down and think about it, there is a lot you can do in sex play without your penis. i'm not suggesting you leave it at home, but i do think that a dick isn't the only thing that defines a man sexually.



ok - i think i can do this. tell me more about ALL MALE PARTIES

wait - i'm like some other people, too. take me back to their concerns.

i'm like Josh.

i’ve never been to an all male party. will i seem inexperienced? aren’t the guys who go to these things big pervs, anyway?

it’s not like you’ll have to wear a pin on your shirt showing that you’re a newbie. you’ll probably be nervous (see Jack’s concern) - but experience is not a prerequisite for coming to these. don’t worry, it’s all very cool and no pressure.


now, about those “pervy” people. the fact is, men who come to these events tend to be nice, normal, sane, professional, easygoing, and fun. they share an open-mindedness, and a desire to interact with others in a sexy, sensual, erotic or physical way. if that's a "big perv" then i suppose i (the host of these) am one, too. i'm not so sure it's a bad thing to be.

perhaps the “perverted” ones in our society are those who deny themselves such pleasures...

ok - i think i can do this. tell me more about ALL MALE PARTIES

wait - i'm like some other people, too. take me back to their concerns.

i'm like Harris.

i'm not completely in control of my time - i think i may have to be in a meeting, while you guys are all having fun.

if you have a spontaneous schedule, or find it difficult to plan in advance because things might come up (like work stuff, personal relationship stuff, etc), then hold off on responding to an event when you get the invite. instead, take your chances and see if you can get on the door list on the same day - or even just a few hours before the party starts. at that point, if there is still space on the door list when i hear from you, i will add you to it.

you can let me know on the day of the event; in fact emailing me up to 30 minutes before the beginning of the door is fine, too.

another way to do this is to, well, come up with an excuse (to your gf, your bf, your boss, or anyone else). check out this link for some of the top ten excuses and tips for not using others.




ok - i think i can do this. tell me more about ALL MALE PARTIES

wait - i'm like some other people, too. take me back to their concerns.

i’m like Mike.

i’m ready to go.

great, dude! you're gonna have a blast!

let's get you started:

click here to read about who comes, and what really happens.

click here to get logistical details, and to get cleared for them.

i'm short on time

just tell me the basics, 'cause i've gotta run right now!

ok - here we go:
- these are ALL MALE NAKED GROUP PARTIES
- they are located in the dupont circle area of washington, dc
- the times for them vary (some in the afternoon, some in the evening, some at night)
- there's a calendar showing upcoming parties on the right side of this page.

some more stuff you should know:
- there's no pressure to do anything
- you're welcome to watch without participating
- condoms, lube, and bottled water are supplied
- a donation is requested (suggested $20-$40 per person) - IF IT'S YOUR FIRST TIME ATTENDING, NO DONATION IS REQUESTED!
- you'll need to be "cleared" to get invited to these

to get cleared for parties, the following is requested:
- your height, weight and age
- a face pic
- a naked body pic (ok to block your face in it)


if you have concerns about discretion, are curious about who attends or what these events are really like, want to know more about the host, want to get cleared for parties, or get any other info, please go back to the main site and read through it. it'll take you about 10 minutes to read through the whole site.

(if you're really short on time, you might want to return to the main site and bookmark it now, so you don't lose it!)

the photos are an issue for me.

if you ABSOLUTELY can't send pictures, i am willing to meet with you in person, for up to one hour. i normally bill my time at $220/hour, and i want you to understand that i would be taking time from my work to do this for you. as such, i would request a minimum donation of $100 cash for our meeting, even if it is for less than the hour (we can be done in 20 minutes, or 40 minutes; it can vary). here are my terms:
- i would need to meet with you in a private location, which i may ask you to provide.
- you would need to get completely undressed.
- during this time together, you may ask me questions about the events.
- to prevent potential embarrassment, at that time i will not give you an answer, as to whether you are, or are not, cleared for events. instead, you will get an email from me within 24 hours of our meeting.
- if i need to travel to you, i will expect reimbursement for my travel expenses, which range from $20-$60 for the dc/md/va metropolitan area.
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or wait - perhaps you are ok about sending me photos, but you just don't like the ones you currently have.

i can take some new pictures of you. they can be partially or completely naked pics of you, with or without your face showing. a photo shoot like this would give me the opportunity to see you, so in fact you wouldn't need to send me images. instead, i would give them to you electronically (and delete them on my computer.) these would be photos that you could send out to people who you might want to connect with in the future. click here for more info on this.

i'm not getting your email invites

well, first let me ask you the obvious: have you already been cleared for events? if not, do that first by clicking here.

if you're already cleared, then perhaps the email invites are going to your spam folder by mistake.
also, if you've just been cleared and i sent you to this web page, it's simply to make sure you DO get email invites in the future.
either way, here's what you need to do. just add the following email addresses to your Address Book or Contacts List:

host@invite.celebrations.net
havingparties@gmail.com

email invites from host@invite.celebrations.net should come one or two times a month. if three weeks go by and you haven't received any invites, contact me and we can figure out what might be wrong.

i wouldn't want to keep anyone from coming!