i don't want to burst your bubble, but guess what? people who go to orgies are definitely able to remain disease-free. they stay that way by using their senses (eyes, ears, hands, and so on) when playing. knowing how to have safer sex is important.
safer sex concepts vary, but for many it means using barriers like condoms when fucking or getting fucked. practicing "safer sex" typically means you do not use barriers with oral sex (this is the main difference between safer sex and "safe sex," which uses barriers for both oral and anal play.)
so what do you mean, using your “eyes, ears and hands?”
just what it says. literally LOOK at someone before you have sex with them. look them over to make sure there are no sores, cuts, and to see that they are clean in general.
LISTEN to what they are saying. if they're talking a lot of odd stuff in terms of their previous behavior, or if you sense any red flags, you might not want to proceed.
FEEL someone before you have sex with them. for example, if you're going to fuck someone in the ass, put your finger in their hole first, and feel around. no strange bumps? good, you should feel comfortable proceeding.
if you ever find that someone has an open sore, or bumps in or on their genitals or mouth, you should stay away - those could be symptoms of syphilis, warts, or herpes. i myself have yet to encounter such things on people at these events.
well, what about the location? what’s the apartment like?
the place is cleaned by a maid every week. fresh linens are put on beds before every event. and condoms and lube are always within reach.
what if someone is HIV positive and infectious?
no one is to attend these events who knowingly has any STD or STI that is infectious - including HIV. having said that, if you bring one piece of advice with you into these parties (or any intimate encounter with anyone, for that matter) it should be this: play with people AS IF they are capable of giving you an infectious disease. in that way, your behavior will be safe. for example, if you are using condoms and common sense (if you cut your finger an hour ago, don't rub it in someone’s cum) you should be fine. play safe, and you will be safe.
so does everyone have to use condoms?
let's be clear here. if YOU want someone to use a condom with you, then that person needs to use a condom with you. really, that should be all that matters. it really doesn't have anything to do with you, if the person you are playing with didn't use a condom, with someone he was playing with before you. your use of a condom with him will protect you.
condoms are easily available everywhere during an event, and all men are encouraged to use them. however, this is not a policed party. if two guys are making a choice to not use a condom, that is a choice between them. there are boyfriends, partners and husbands who attend the parties, and when they fuck, they often do not use condoms with each other.
if you are new to this, here are some tips.
::: bottoms can help to put the condom on the top.
::: guys should put on a new condom EVERY time they do something insertive with different partners.
::: use your head as you roll that thing onto your other head. if you start to unroll a condom and it’s not unrolling the “easy” way down, don’t just pull it off, turn it inside out and roll it on again. you may already have pre-cum on it, which is now on the outside of the condom. instead, just throw it away and grab another one. and this time, start unrolling it a little before it touches your cock.
what else do i need to know?
good question. let’s start pre-party. you should arrive clean - freshly showered, and cleaned out. once you're at the event, if you've been active, you should go into the bathroom and wash up - with soap and hot water! this is for all intimate activity - whether you've been fucking, fingering, or playing with toys. the bathroom has antibacterial liquid soap, paper towels and plenty of hot water. you can even shower afterwards if you want - just bring a towel.
and please remember: - if you get a cold, some odd intestinal bug that would affect your having sex, experience a sudden outbreak of something, or some other medical situation, please don't come to an event.
i'm still not sure about this...
if after reading this you’re still not comfortable with the idea of having safe, clean activity with other people, know that you can always just attend and watch. or, attend, watch, whip that cock out, and jerk off - all without even touching another person!
ok - i think i can do this. tell me more about ALL MALE PARTIES
wait - i'm like some other people, too. take me back to their concerns.
