if you have a spontaneous schedule, or find it difficult to plan in advance because things might come up (like work stuff, personal relationship stuff, etc), then hold off on responding to an event when you get the invite. instead, take your chances and see if you can get on the door list on the same day - or even just a few hours before the party starts. at that point, if there is still space on the door list when i hear from you, i will add you to it.
you can let me know on the day of the event; in fact emailing me up to 30 minutes before the beginning of the door is fine, too.
another way to do this is to, well, come up with an excuse (to your gf, your bf, your boss, or anyone else). check out this link for some of the top ten excuses and tips for not using others.
ok - i think i can do this. tell me more about ALL MALE PARTIES
wait - i'm like some other people, too. take me back to their concerns.
